Engaged During the Holiday Season: 4 Things to Think About

You’re carrying a little bit of extra weight this time of year…

No, we aren’t talking about the turkey, ham, potatoes, pie, stuffing, cranberries, roast beef, more ham, more pie and countless hors d’oeuvres.

However, if you’re engaged over the holidays, this season will carry a little extra weight. You’re balancing the stresses of multiple Christmases, traditions, and the non-stop questions from friends and family about your upcoming day.

We’ve put together a few of our favorite tips to enjoy the holiday season during this engaged season of life.

1. Take some time for the two of you.

Between the multiple work parties, events, and actual Christmas, there is a lot of time for social time.
I know I definitely feel the pressure of the holiday season, sometimes!

I always find that it’s super important for Drysen and I when we spend time together. And if you’re feeling the stress this holiday season, I think some time with just the two of you will go a long way.



2. Figure out the “Two Family Christmases” ASAP

For the rest of our married years, most of us are coordinating a large group of loved ones around the holidays. There are multiple families and all of the — we’ll call it— “drama” that comes with it. ?

The sooner you and your spouse can be in open communication about the holiday season, the better.

Drysen and I don’t claim to be therapists or counselors by any means. But with married life, the Christmas dynamic changes. If you’ve been dating for a long time, you already probably know this. It’s important to get on the same page!

3. Start thinking about your own holiday traditions.

Drysen and I love the holidays, especially Christmas.

(So much so, that we even celebrated early by doing some awesome Christmas mini-sessions. Sorry for the cheesy sales pitch! Okay, back to the blog…)

But aside from Christmas mini-sessions, we’ve tried to develop a habit of having some of our own holiday traditions.


Here are a few of our favorites:

  • Drysen cuts down a real Christmas tree.
  • We turn on the fake fireplace and drink hot chocolate listening to Christmas music.
  • We enjoy a Christmas Eve church service together.
  • We travel to Nebraska where Drysen’s grandparents celebrate Christmas and re-enact the nativity scene ! And last year Olivia was the baby Jesus (pause for a loving sigh as I think back).

I know for myself, not only do I decorate our home, but I also decorate our office and studio with all of the Christmas cheer that comes this holiday season. Drysen called our studio a “winter wonderland” last week. Not sure how often I will get him to set that up again…

This is a time for you to start finding your rhythm of being married over the holidays.

4. Give yourself a few days off!

This year, Christmas will absolutely fly by. And it’s important to pack it all in, but take some time away from wedding planning.

I know, it’s tempting. You want to use this time to get ahead on the flower ordering, dress shopping, dinner menu planning, and more.

But you’ll find yourself feeling a lot better about this stress if you just take a few days over the holidays to not plan a single thing and just enjoy the reason for the season. This is supposed to be the “most wonderful time of the year.” So don’t sweat it!

We hope that you have a wonderful holiday season.

From your family to ours, have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! ?❄?

— Erin

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